How to stop dating a guy

We exchanged phone numbers and made plans to meet. Paul and I texted back and forth over the next week or so, eventually putting some time on the calendar to get to know each other without Mookie yanking me with his leash. Our first date attempt fell through when my phone died the night before, leaving me unable to confirm our coffee. But our second attempt stuck, and we planned to meet at a restaurant downtown in a few days.

As an Online Lady, people ask me a lot of odd questions. When someone is sending you mixed signals, under what circumstances should you keep trying, and when should you walk away? As a rule, mixed signals are usually just soft nos. Some women, especially, might try to let men down easy for fear that you guys might go apeshit on us for not wanting to date you—which happens enough to feel like a justified fear. Everyone bemoans this dynamic. The point is—and this holds true for everything dating-related—a maybe is a no. And sometimes, someone really was in Philly for a work event.

I've felt apprehensive about writing on this topic and have thus avoided it for a while. Then today I read this article , and realized it was time. I know most of you can relate to this topic; some of you have been on both sides of the experience, and some of you only on one. But see the thing is, I didn't want to write about how to break up with someone, because I didn't want to seem like an asshole.

So when a guy comes along and fits the description of your perfect Hollywood dream boy, he can be your one true love, right? And when you get a look into the inner workings of your so-called dream guy, you may be sorely disappointed. So when you come across them, just run the other way lest they heap their issues onto you.